Love the One You're With

Well there's a rose in a fisted glove
And the eagle flies with the dove
And if you can't be with the one you love honey
Love the one you're with ~ Stephen Stills


There was something about the lyrics of this song that never really sat right with me until now. I used to think the song lyrics meant that it was okay to settle. Wasting your time loving someone that doesn't feel the same way in return can surely be torture. We all have been there at some point in our lives. Some would say to love the one you're with could help you to over come the heartache, but I'm not so sure I would want to be with someone who is longing for someone other than me. Should we move on before loving the one we are with or would that qualify as moving on? Is it fair to your new love interest to start something before your heart is ready to be given to them?

 I often think about how we get over heartache, and in some cases I'm sure we never do. Can we learn to love another as much as we did the last? I think we can. When I first found out I was pregnant with my second baby my first thought was how will I ever feel the same deep love for my second child as I did for my first? Well, of course when she was born it was instant. It was a different kind of love, but just as significant as the love I had for my son. In relationships its the same way we can love another for who they are as individuals, and just as much as we loved the last. Just like we do with our parents, friends and siblings. Life is too short to spend our time thinking of someone we will never be with. To never love another is where you would be settling.  


Don't be angry - don't be sad
Don't sit crying over good times you've had
There's a girl right next to you
And she's just waiting for something to do

Turn your heartache right into joy
'Cause she's a girl and you're a boy
Get it together come on make it nice
You ain't gonna need anymore advice

Well there's a rose in a fisted glove
And the eagle flies with the dove
And if you can't be with the one you love honey
Love the one you're with
 
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