Do opposites attract?

Do opposites attract? Relationships are about getting our own needs met, often on an unconscious basis. In other words, we try to find someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow. People tend to look for almost a clone of themselves. They are very specific, too specific, I think. In the real world you may find more appeal in someone who is different in some ways. The key is, which ways? If the persons values and ways they want to spend time are different, this could lead to big trouble. Once people do notice the differences, that's where the changing comes in. One tries to change the other. This can eliminate the opposite traits that were tantalizing in the first place. So much depends on the willingness to be tolerant of the differences. It helps if one person in the couple is more easy going than the other.

 As my friend, John, said about his relationship; "She is my yang for my ying." He also said; "I believe that opposites attract for a reason, but many spend too much time looking at the partner or themselves instead of us or we. Your opposites traits could be very complementary. You could definitely balance each other. Loving your partner means accepting their flaws as your own and boosting their negatives with your positives (and visa-versa)". I believe this to be true, and though I do find myself to be attracted to men who have similar interests, my heart tends to beat faster for the guy that can give me new experiences. 

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