Thank you!

I have this coworker who is always willing to help you out when needed. Well, mostly when it's not needed. I think she has this nervous energy and doesn't like to sit around doing nothing, and is trying to buy time between her tasks. This can be a wonderful attribute in any person, and I can't say enough on how much I appreciate her, but....yes, there is a but. She is so helpful sometimes it becomes an annoyance. Being helpful is an annoyance, you say? What I mean by this is she doesn't ask you if you would like her help, she just basically starts doing my job for me. Not only does she start doing my job without asking me, she will point out to me that she has done my job as if I owe her something. Well, of course I say "thank you" because if I don't she will point out over and over again that she has done one of my tasks for me, and stands there waiting for me to thank her.  

This can be exhausting! It's almost as if the only reason she does it is to get a "thank you" from me. I have even spoke up and told her many times to please ask me if I could use some help before taking it upon herself to start doing my job tasks, and her only reply is "I'm just trying to be helpful" then of course I feel bad for saying something. It doesn't always look good for me if someone else is doing my job, and I need work to pass my day as well. When I turn the tables on her and start helping her with her tasks she will thank me at least 5 times for the one task that I have done for her before the day is done. This is good manners, but once is enough. She doesn't stop because I think she likes to hear "you're welcome" over and over again.

Do some people need to be appreciated more than others? Do they feel that if they don't go out and seek appreciation they will never get it? I guess if I had to choose the type of coworker I wanted to work with this type would sure beat out the coworker that does little or nothing, and is always making me pick up the slack.
      


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