You Have Been Blocked!

That good ole block setting on your social media sites is the greatest invention since caller ID, right? We don't ever have to communicate with that annoying individual again without any explanation. I have about 10 people blocked myself. Mostly men who I feel have crossed the line, and could become potential stalkers. I do also have a couple woman blocked who are not even on my friend list that have clearly escaped from the phych ward. If I have an acquaintance on my friend list who only added me to sell me something, I will delete you, but never block you. I know there is a "hide" feature, but if I don't know you, and you don't interact on my posts, or I on yours, really what's the point of us being friends? It's nothing personal, I just like to keep people on my personal page to at least acquaintance status.

 I will never block a former friend who I no longer speak or interact with. I don't hold a grudge against you, I just don't see the point in having a former friend all up in my business. Just like I probably wouldn't want an ex boyfriend, or ex husband on my list of friends. Of course I only have one of them, and he's not on social media of any kind. That is unless he has me blocked. Yes, this sweet ray of sunshine has been blocked herself .

 I can always tell when someone has blocked me by a mutual friends post who are interacting with someone I can't see the comments of. I was just blocked by a former friend and neighbor whom I deleted because they thought they were punishing me by not talking to me, and deleting my comments. How awkward is that? I had a guy unblock me after 2 years and pretended it didn't happen, but of course I called him out and he still denied it. Human behavior is so funny sometimes, I should have studied it in school. I have been blocked by a family member years ago. Oh wait, that was in real life.


                                  
                                                        What's your blocking point?
                        

 
 

When Friendships Go South

"I'm offensive, bitter, and depressed. I need to reflect on some of things I have said in the past." This is what a good friend told me recently. I don't normally like to air my dirty laundry, but in my defense I have never, and I mean never, had anyone say this to me. Well, this isn't the first time I have had to walk away from a friend I love dearly, but what other choice do I have? I know I'm not bitter, and I'm the happiest I've been in awhile. Offensive? Why, because I think for myself? I did try and reflect on whatever it was they think is so offensive about me, and it all narrows down to having different point of views, and a different belief system. To be offended by them is really ridiculous. I am the same person they met six years ago, and if I am as offensive as they say I am, why were we so inseparable for so many years? Then it all clicked. Outside influences convinced this person that my way of thinking is offensive, and this same influence has caused this person to drop other friends as well.

When I tell people that I am no longer friends with this person they immediately assume we must have had a fight, but that wasn't really the case at all. I really hate the old cliche "They really weren't your friend to begin with." Yes, this person was my friend. A really good friend. People change and grow apart, that's just part of life. I think I would have had more respect for this person if they would have just said that to me. Instead the blame for our friendship going south was all on me. It's hard sometimes because we both hangout with the same group of friends who don't share the same feelings about me. When they ask what happened I just say that we no longer have anything in common, and have chose to part our separate ways because in all fairness, that's exactly what happened.


              I still love this person dearly, and wish them the best even if I have to do it from afar.

Attention Seekers

What has made us all such big attention seekers? I know that technology has made it easier to get attention, but what is it about ourselves that makes us think that to be significant in life we must receive a lot of it? Yes, there are career choices that demand we seek attention to sell whatever it is we are selling, but on a personal level are we just looking for validation or acceptance? Sure, I suppose so, and what other way to get it than on social media sites?

Sometimes when I'm scrolling through my social news feed I come across the same serial attention seekers who are clearly self absorbed. One in particular who seems to need this self validation everyday. I get the bragging about our children, I'm very proud of mine as well, but the self promotion kind of comes across as desperation. Does convincing others that our life is so perfect, really make it perfect? I know my life isn't always fun and games. Does it make me an attention seeker if I post about my miserable day at work? Sure, I want people to sympathize with me. Tell me what a jerk that customer was to me.

Then there is the profile pic that we never seem to be completely happy with, and use filters to make us look...well, not our true selves. I rarely take a good picture. People say I'm photogenic, but what they don't know is how many pics I've taken before I am completely satisfied with the one that makes the cut to be my profile pic. And god forbid friends tag me in a "unapproved" pic. I have my "pre-approved" setting on for all tagged photo's. You know damn well they picked a photo that made them look good, and you with red eye or your mouth wide open. I guess you could say I write Blogs to get attention. Did I get yours? Like it!