Communication breakdown.

Communicating is a must in our everyday lives. We have to communicate to get the job done, our needs met, and express our feelings about something. A lot of people think the cause of  communication breakdown is the lack of face to face interaction. Phones and social media have taken the place of actually meeting up with someone. I believe that's only part of the problem. I think good communication skills are taught. When a child is crying we ask them what the problem is, and if they don't verbally tell us we usually say," I can't help you if you don't tell me what is wrong". To let people assume or misinterpret instead of communicating can lead to the opposite of what we really feel about something. How often do we say nothing at all instead of communicating our feelings, only to regret it later?   

I definitely do what I say I will do. When I tell someone I will be at a certain place, at a certain time, I don't even bother to confirm. Which has thrown a few people off. They are not used to people doing what they say they'll do, only to have them not show up places because I didn't say for a second time I would be there. Then I usually have to call them asking where the heck are you? Being a good listener is one of the best ways to be a good communicator. No one likes communicating with someone who only cares about putting in their two cents, and does not take the time to listen to the other person. If you're not a good listener, it's going to be hard to comprehend what you're being asked to do.

 Your body language, eye contact, hand gestures, and tone all color the message you are trying to convey. A relaxed, open stance (arms open, legs relaxed), and a friendly tone will make you appear approachable, and will encourage others to speak openly with you. This of course has to be face to face. Good communication means saying just enough. Don't say too little or talk too much. no one likes to hear a person ramble, and if you say too little am I comprehending what you are trying to tell me? We all know lack of communication in relationships can be a strain or the beginning to an end. How many times do I have to say something before my guy actually hears what I said?  There is a punch line in there some where.