Dating sucks!

I'm just gonna come right out and say it. Dating sucks! So much so, I have taken a long hiatus from doing it. The past few times that I have gone out on a date I was the one to make the initiative, and I always seem to choose the guys who are more into themselves than me. I get they are wanting to give a good first impression, but why would you want to be with a woman who is only interested in what you own? To come right out and list the things you have instead of telling me what it is you enjoy doing, or what you want out of life is kind of selling yourself short. If your personality sucks, none of that stuff is going to make a difference anyway. I'm not even really sure what attracts me to this kind of man other than maybe it's the only type of guy available. I feel like I'm getting way too old to be playing these sort of dating games. I hate dating sites, but at least you know upfront what the guy is looking for so you don't have to waste your time on someone who is only looking for a good time. I feel like if I ask a guy any questions about what they want in a relationship they automatically think I want to walk down the aisle with them. No, I don't even think I want to get married again, but I would like to find a lifetime partner before that lifetime is over.

Getting dating advice is so confusing. I had a male friend tell me he likes when a woman asks him out because it takes the pressure off the man from always having to do so. Then I've had others say they like to ask the woman out. I'm the type of woman who will only flirt with men I want to be asked out by, so they know I'm interested. I think a person who flirts with everyone sends mixed messages. I am definitely a one man type of woman. I can only focus on one man at a time. If I don't think things will work out after a few dates I don't let things drag on until something better comes along. I don't think that's fair, or a nice thing to do to someone. Being single doesn't make me unhappy, but it does make me feel a little awkward when the only friends I have to take trips with are couples. I just don't really have a lot of single friends. Wait, I don't have any! ugh! My Father inlaw who was widowed in the late 80s took a trip to Florida by himself a few years after his wife had passed away, and met a woman who had lost her husband as well. A few months later she came to visit him and they have been together since. I love that story....