I was recently talking with a friend who was attending a funeral, and wasn't sure if it would be appropriate to wear bright colors. Well, I have been to funerals where I was requested to wear black because in their culture it is a sign of disrespect not to. I think that it is always important to find these things out before attending the funeral. Funerals are basically for the living, but we should always respect the memory of the deceased. I have been to funerals where I felt like it had nothing to do with the person who had passed, and left feeling puzzled thinking did they know this person at all? A funeral should fit the person who has passed personality, their belief system, and honor them in a way they would want to be remembered. Wearing their favorite color, having their favorite flower, and old photos on display would be a few ways.
I personally want my life to be celebrated, not so much grieved. I know that's much harder to do when we lose a loved one at a young age. When my 20 year old younger brother passed away unexpectedly my mother wore pink. I remember thinking how appropriate this was for a young man so full of life. I recently lost an Aunt and I wore purple. The people close to her were able to speak about their memories of her which made it much more personal. Everyone felt the same way about her. She was such a loving, caring person to everyone she knew. I want my funeral to be simple. I don't want my body to be laid out for viewing, but instead I want to be cremated, and my ashes scattered under a fruit tree. So every year when the fruit it ripe you will take a bite, and say, Debbie, sure tastes sweet this year.
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