I Want Your Attention

I was listening to a radio talk show the other day, and the topic was "How to get a woman interested in you". Well, being a single woman I was curious to hear how this worked. The talk show hosts had listeners call in, and tell them how they piqued a girls interest. The first caller responded by saying when he first meets a woman he gives them a lot of attention the first night, and then completely ignores them for a couple of weeks. It drives them crazy, and makes them want him even more. The second caller said, if you know a girl likes you, you should ask them about one of their girlfriends. It will make them think about why you're not interested in them, and what they should do to get your attention. At first I laughed and thought, good luck with that one, buddy. But as more men called in they all had similar stories on how they get woman interested.

So let me get this straight. If a man ignores me, he really wants me? If he gives me attention, he's not interested? I'm so confused. This really sounds like they are messing with woman's heads, and is it really necessary? Sometimes I think men make things so much harder than they need to be. If I ignore you, I'm really not interested in you. If I like you, I will give you a lot of attention. If I flirt with you, you can be certain I'm interested. I will not ask you about another man unless I'm interested in another man. It's that simple. If you are flirting with other woman that makes you less attractive to me, and I'm moving on to the next guy. If you can get a woman this way, then you've landed a very insecure woman who will always feel like she has to fight for your attention. And we all know how you men hate possessive woman.

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Dinosaur Music

I belong to a couple of music groups on Facebook, which I think are a lot of fun. Recently in one of the groups someone used the term "Dinosaur music" because most of the topics were about music of our past. I do listen to current music, but I will confess, I listen more to the music I grew up listening to. If you think about it so did our parents, and probably theirs as well. I'm sure my kids will do the same. Every generation thinks their music is the best. I remember my parents telling me to "turn that crap down!" Although my children love the music from the 80s, they still on a regular basis listen to the bands from their generation the most.

Music of all kinds is heavily influenced by the generations before them. It would almost be like never discussing American History, and only focusing on current events because it's old news. It's important to go back and reread, listen, educate ourselves, and others about music. When I hear a teenager say that they have never heard of a band that is well known from the past, I feel like someone has failed them. They should know more about music than,"They have a really cute singer" or "It's really easy to dance to".

So take your kids to see a concert of your favorite 80s band. Jam out to Metallica while cleaning your house. Sing together in the car to Led Zeppelin on your next road trip, just like your parents did with you. The future generation depends on it, and it's pay back time for all the Disney, Nickelodeon, and Muppet music you had to listen to when they were younger.

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Sorry for your loss

I was recently talking with a friend who was attending a funeral, and wasn't sure if it would be appropriate to wear bright colors. Well, I have been to funerals where I was requested to wear black because in their culture it is a sign of disrespect not to. I think that it is always important to find these things out before attending the funeral. Funerals are basically for the living, but we should always respect the memory of the deceased. I have been to funerals where I felt like it had nothing to do with the person who had passed, and left feeling puzzled thinking did they know this person at all? A funeral should fit the person who has passed personality, their belief system, and honor them in a way they would want to be remembered. Wearing their favorite color, having their favorite flower, and old photos on display would be a few ways.

I personally want my life to be celebrated, not so much grieved. I know that's much harder to do when we lose a loved one at a young age. When my 20 year old younger brother passed away unexpectedly my mother wore pink. I remember thinking how appropriate this was for a young man so full of life. I recently lost an Aunt and I wore purple. The people close to her were able to speak about their memories of her which made it much more personal. Everyone felt the same way about her. She was such a loving, caring person to everyone she knew. I want my funeral to be simple. I don't want my body to be laid out for viewing, but instead I want to be cremated, and my ashes scattered under a fruit tree. So every year when the fruit it ripe you will take a bite, and say, Debbie, sure tastes sweet this year.

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