Why am I so upset about this? Well, there was not any nudity in the pic, and some of the comments were from a friend who had died shortly after that. We were just having fun, and I can never get them back. Couldn't this person have deleted me instead? When someone deletes me I don't take it personal, I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but to feel you have the need to judge what I post instead of deleting me doesn't say too much about you. I've had people rip my character apart on some of the news articles I have posted in the past. Good people with good intentions don't do that. I always know when I've struck a chord the minute you start to attack my character, and it shows everyone else you don't have good character. You need to keep scrolling and mind your own business, or delete me. Most of the people on my list of friends are good, kind, people with a few who tend to be self righteous, and expect the world to behave by their guidelines.
So why do people judge? We don't know a person well enough? We can not Identify with another persons belief system, values, or behavior? That person somehow threatens how we perceive ourselves? For me personally, when I judge for the second and third reasons, I have especially negative emotions and thoughts toward others. I try hard not to judge, and have been doing so less and less, but I still have a ways to go. I’m not saying that we all have to learn to stop judging others. Maybe it isn’t even possible to do so because of the way we’re wired as human beings. But what we can learn is that our judgments mostly have to do with us, not the people we judge, and the same is true when others judge us. In most cases, we judge others in order to feel better about ourselves, because we are lacking self-acceptance and self-love. If we could learn to embrace ourselves as we truly are, would we still be so judgmental toward others? Most likely not. We would no longer need a reason to put someone else down just to raise ourselves up.
