Starting Over.

Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I'd be starting over after being married for 24 years. I really hate the whole dating process. You put yourself out there in a some what awkward position to sell yourself to a person you have never met before. First impressions can either lead to a second date, or you may never hear from them again. I never dated before I was married, so after my divorce I didn't really know how to meet or approach men. I met my ex husband when we were in our teens, another awkward stage in life, but I must say we hit it off immediately. We were inseparable from that day on. Sometimes I wish there was a boyfriend store you could go to, browse the aisles, pick which guy you thought would be a perfect match and bring him home. Well, maybe not my home at first, but you know what I mean.

 What to talk about can only involve the life you lived with your ex, and who wants to hear about that? I never really realized how hard it would be to meet single men, but at my age most of them are married or in long term relationships. The ones that are single usually become friends because there is no chemistry between us. Dating after a long marriage can be a little strange because most men later in life are set in their ways. So you either put up with their bad habits or stay single for the rest of your life. Starting over later in life can be much more complicated than when you were younger. There is so much more baggage you both have to deal with. I mean lets face it whether we wanted to divorce or not we all have issues we bring into our new relationships.

I'm happy in my life alone, but finding that same happy life with a new love interest can be a struggle. Combining two well lived lives can be frustrating at times. I'm less likely to put up with the same stuff I put up with in my last relationship. I mean what's the point of starting over with someone new if he acts the same way your ex did? That perfect someone who thinks I'm perfect as well doesn't seem to exist. That fun loving guy who is tired of the game playing, and just wants to enjoy the rest of his life carefree with me. My other half is out there somewhere...

  

Overused Words

When we overuse words to express ourselves do you find those words lose there meaning? There are words that writers steer away from for this reason. My biggest pet peeve for overused words is the word love. I see people use it nonchalantly all the time, especially when they are expressing how they feel towards someone they really think is a great person. By using it towards someone you are only fond of, does it take away from the deep true meaning of love? Yes, because if you over use it on every little thing you really like, it becomes meaningless. Hate would be another overused word I dislike. I know what you are thinking, you shouldn't hate anything or anyone, but if you stop using it for everything you dislike, when you do use it I'll know you really mean it.

• literally: Originally meant “in a literal or strict sense,” but is used as a more general intensifier for things that are not strictly true. Because of this, “in a figurative sense,” the exact opposite of the original meaning, has now been added to the dictionary as a definition for literally.
• unique: Originally meant “unlike anything else,” but is used to mean “different, to some degree, from the standard or the norm.”
• awesome: Originally meant “causing feelings of fear or wonder,” but is used as a general, positive descriptor like “great” or “cool.”
• amazing: Originally meant “causing overwhelming surprise or astonishment,” but is used as a general, positive descriptor like “great” or “cool.”
• totally: Originally meant “completely, in every part,” but is now used as a general intensifier, much like “really.”
• basically: Originally meant “essentially” or “fundamentally,” but is now used as general verbal filler.
• incredible: Originally meant “impossible to believe,” but is now used as a general, positive descriptor like “great” or “cool.”
• really: Originally meant “actually true,” but is now used frequently as a general intensifier.
• very: Meaning “to a high degree,” we all just need to stop using it in every other sentence.
• honestly: Originally meant “in an honest and genuine manner,” but is now often used as general verbal filler.
• absolutely: Originally meant “in a complete and total manner,” but is now used as a general intensifier.
• unbelievable: Originally meant “impossible to believe,” but is now used as a general, positive descriptor.

                                    

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