Miss Independent

I was doing my daily scroll on a social media site, and came across an article titled "How to love a girl who doesn't know how to be loved". It described these woman as being independent. As I continued to read this article I realized I was one of those woman. Even though I had been married for 24 years, and divorced just a few years ago. I was very independent during the marriage and even more so after. Not so much financially, but in every other aspect. I was in control of most of the finances, I did most of the day to day tasks that had to be done in and out of the home. I also made all of the decision making when it came to our children. At times I felt like I was a married single person, if that makes any sense?

Dating has not been easy for me, in fact I don't date much at all, and I think its because I'm afraid of losing my independence. I've been told I'm too picky, but I just don't feel the rush to jump into a relationship until I feel comfortable about having one. I like to get to know someone in a natural environment with friends and without the pressure you get from dating. At first I may seem a little rough around the edges, but my edges will soften when you get to know me. I do consider myself to be less emotional than most woman because I tend to ponder my thoughts, and work through them on my own. I also need to see how you react to my personality, and my need for independence.

I definitely need someone who supports my decisions. Just because I want to be independent doesn't mean I don't want to be in a long term relationship. When I am ready to love, it's forever. I realize that you are a person with or without me, and ask that you see me in the same way. Being able to spend time apart is important to me, and I don't want to rely on your presence, nor do I want you to rely on mine. When we are together, be together. Completely. Let me know I am loved until I begin to understand what that feels like, and then keep doing it. If it’s right, I'll come around because I am loyal by nature, and I'll stick around, too.

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